I feel very safe but I do not live in a flash point city. Or a city at all. Even so, I haven't assumed nothing can happen. I'm prepared.

There are places in the US that are not safe at all. I was recently in San Francisco and never felt I safe there either. But we took a wrong turn in Oakland and I didn't feel safe at all.

I have been in rough areas in many cities. I've also did some international travel in my youth. I haven't felt unsafe for most of the time

Statistically the US is pretty safe with some exceptions. Because many of us can legally carry concealed weapons I have fewer concerns.

Schools are another story. My sons are beyond that stage but if I were to have young children there is no way they would be in government schools. Safety is one reason but indoctrination and incompetence would be bigger reasons.

All that said, this all depends on hyper local and personal factors. Generalizing is easy and rarely helpful. In the US regional hypocrisy is blatantly expressed all over. Take everything with a grain of salt.