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I have won at least two enemies on this site, although one of them probably silently muted me within one day of my registration, while for some reason the infamous troll has trouble doing this even weeks after I've been commenting, and worse. Please advise...

Note: I will not highlight either of them; they both know who each is, individually, if they haven't muted me already and read this far, and I wouldn't blink twice if they're socks of the same puppeteer.

Abstain [please comment your opinion...]0.0%

Take steps to leave humanity entirely...13.3%

Mute haters; keep pissing off everybody?33.3%

Ignore without muting; my recommendation53.3%

15 votes \ 20h left

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323 sats \ 2 replies \ @SimpleStacker 4h

Ideally you can just ignore the posts/comments that you don't want to respond to. My general policy on the internet is to recognize that people communicate in many different ways, to absorb what I like / is helpful to me, and to ignore what I don't like / is unhelpful to me.

100 sats \ 0 replies \ @kepford 3h

Great way to think about it.

Also, its good to be aware of the spectrum of thought as well as stupidity. I think today we are struggling with the reality that there are so many people not like us. We are focusing on the differences more than what we have in common. Easy to blame the Internet but really a lot of this existed before. We just were not aware of it.

Maybe that's not a good thing. Only time will tell.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Scoresby 3h

This is good advice.

70 sats \ 2 replies \ @Undisciplined 4h

This is an open community full of weirdos. Don't expect only normal calibrated responses.

Even many of the jerks here have a lot to offer. I only mute accounts, once I'm quite certain that they have nothing to offer and if they're making me dread looking at my notifications.

52 sats \ 0 replies \ @SimpleStacker 4h

Indeed. I do use the mute button it's mainly to suppress notifications. I'll still often read what they write, I just don't want to get notified when they respond to me.

42 sats \ 0 replies \ @kepford 3h

Yep, this is my practice as well.

If you expect to come here and just vent without push back you are on the wrong site. And the push back will not all be equal. Some will be dumb. Some will not.

57 sats \ 2 replies \ @3a42879d5f 4h

I learned this one from Joe Rogan-- Post and ghost. "Don't read the comments."

My take on that is to make your voice heard, speak your truth, and then never read the comments. Commentors are using your words as entertainment, they're not your friends.

The voices that matter are friends and family in your sneakernet.

0 sats \ 1 reply \ @adlai OP 4h

It's a rapid recipe for becoming stupid without even requiring any traumatic brain injury. The academic equivalent,

Read your critics, and never respond to them.

is slightly more tolerant of acknowledging the wisdom of your peers, even if they never solicit your review.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Solomonsatoshi 19m

Your style of response is quite provocative and will inevitably tend to generate negative possibly hateful responses. Do you understand why?

1042 sats \ 0 replies \ @guerratotal 1h

I think @Undisciplined comment fits perfectly.

This is an open community full of weirdos. Don't expect only normal, calibrated responses.

Here, we're all a little crazy, paranoid, conspiracy theorists, etc., and few of us are 100% normal, hahaha.

So my recommendation is to ignore it. Fuck everyone. If I have to be myself, I'll be myself.

Even so, always read and gather the best from everyone here. There are some really good people.

We often live to try to please others, and in the end, we lose our essence and become pieces of what others want us to be, and we lose our original selves.

36 sats \ 1 reply \ @adlai OP 4h

Fifteen minutes after posting, I realise that I have committed the same error of which I accused @siggy47 earlier, and not configured a longer window for voting.

Is there unintended benefit? Sure, the results of this poll will reflect mostly opinions of the currently-hatted stackers. Worst case, I'll bother y'all again sometime next quarter with a longer voting window, after studying the hatless further.

Don't forget to mute folks who have nothing more to offer than a GPT that has been trained off comment sections on LinkedIn at a frequency no finer than weekly! Some people just have a talkative day, at the drunken fool digital nomad cafe.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Akg10s3 3h

I like your answer,👌

73 sats \ 0 replies \ @Akg10s3 4h

Ignoring without silencing demonstrates our own mental strength. I'm not going to waste my time hating worms...

7 sats \ 0 replies \ @zapsammy 1h

ur posts are very painful to read, in an annoying way, almost unbearable; i used to have a co-worker like that, and his reports were unanimously deemed painful to read; i still have not learned how to deal with him...i just don't, lol

25 sats \ 0 replies \ @k00b 4h

I ignore without muting but I also kind of need to see everything to get a sense of how this machine is doing.

In general, beyond SN, I still don't feel the need to fix people in any overwhelming way, nor do I wish to be ignorant of the diversity of unkindness in the world, so I don't mute people. I also view haters like a kind of f'd up mirror where I might learn something unfortunate about myself from them.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Solomonsatoshi 1h

Difficult to know because you do not give specific examples whether by 'haters' you are referring to people genuinely attack you or people who simply disagree with your views.

Looking at your comments in other posts you appear to sometimes attack others personally, rather than focusing solely on the facts and issues raised.

It is a common trap many of us fall into sometimes when others challenge our beliefs and assertions with arguments that we may struggle to refute in a reasoned manner.

But if we want to engage in the contest of ideas we need to try to engage with the ideas and debate and avoid name calling and personal attacks.

Its not easy and requires constant effort but that is the price of free speech and the contest of ideas.

If others attack personally rather than the ideas and facts raised remind yourself, and them, that they are not addressing the facts and issues raised but are seeking to avoid them and genuine reasoned debate, by attacking the messenger.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @optimism 3h

If you're getting hate and it annoys you, just mute. If you don't care, don't mute.

Why do you care that someone muted you though? This part I don't understand.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @jbschirtzinger 3h

You are always going to piss someone off. Best to try to have a discussion and if that fails. mute um.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @88b0c423eb 3h

Can we mute people here? I did not know that