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Disappearing completely is such an uncommon thing, I almost always think it's murder/suicide. Then again, we're dealing with uncommon people.

55 sats \ 3 replies \ @adlai 10 Mar
Disappearing completely is such an uncommon thing,

why do you think it's uncommon?

the typical geek does not have a Dunbar's worth of daily contacts; maybe five friends happy to keep a quiet correspondence, and a handful of trusted family members who'd rather vanish like Tank Man than betray blood.

not showing up to contest divorce is quite gallant, if the contingency were known beforehand. it doesn't even need to be actually planned, simply warned enough times that smoke-signalling "I told you so" is not worth the flaming newsprint.

there are a billion people east of Pakistan; does the Anglosphere have any real finger on e.g. the border between Russia and China, let alone random crews of merchant freighters?


I was gonna write "the border between Afghanistan and China", and then I remembered it's a little tight and possibly also narrow

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41 sats \ 2 replies \ @k00b 10 Mar

I don't know anyone that's disappeared. I know quite a few people who have died or committed suicide. I guess I don't have any murders even a hop or two away either though.

maybe five friends happy to keep a quiet correspondence, and a handful of trusted family members who'd rather vanish like Tank Man than betray blood.

It's plausible. I would have a hard time asking folks to support my disappearance but I have a hard time asking for things generally.

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128 sats \ 1 reply \ @adlai 10 Mar

jews have plenty of relatives who gradually showed up decades after becoming refugees.

the refugee mindset is regrettably common, even without any obvious collective punishment; all it takes is one frightening conversation with someone who knows everyone you love, and tells you they're better off being your penpals from now on.

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75 sats \ 0 replies \ @k00b 10 Mar

Fair point. Long live Friedcat!

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We are indeed dealing with uncommon people. Everyday I am reminded of this on SN and Nostr. I often notice how few seem to realize how uncommon they are. Their expectations for the other people are the loudest signal of this.

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One thing that occured to me after the post. If it was suicide, it would be difficult to have your remains disappear.

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77 sats \ 0 replies \ @k00b 10 Mar

I don't know. It seems easier to pull off a suicide and have your remains disappear (hike somewhere remote) than remaining disappeared when you're alive. Maybe I overestimate how hard it is to disappear.

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