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Part II - Continuation of this case #999345

Summary: Friend with two children, single mother, ex-partner violent and neglectful towards her children, lived in the United States.

This despicable man was deported and returned to Venezuela in December 2025, after being away for about five or six years. As expected, he began writing to my friend with aggressive messages. When she refused, his messages escalated and became completely aggressive, demanding to see his children. She wisely told him that before he could see them, they needed to resolve the child support obligations and visitation arrangements. She needed to complete these legal procedures to have legal grounds to prove he was a negligent father. He refused, accused her, and continued his psychological abuse. She finally reported him because she was fed up with his harassment. Thanks to that, he stopped insulting and threatening her, although she still lives in fear.

She was able to have a child support hearing where he offered to give $20 a week for food; the rest of the medical and school expenses would be split 50/50. She agreed because she knew that no matter how much he offered, he still wouldn't follow through. And that's exactly what happened. He paid for his children's food for a month, but when the other expenses started piling up, he simply disappeared. He refused to cover medical or school expenses, hiding behind the excuse that he doesn't earn enough money, as he always does. It's been three or four months since he's sent my friend a single message, not even to check on his children or talk to them. Oh, surprise, the man who claims to have no money for his children went to Europe this month.

He's a man with all the wrong priorities. He's simply a scoundrel, an animal. I don't understand how a father can be so mean to his children, how a father can't care about them, how a father can't be interested in his children's well-being. As a mother who loves, adores, and wants the very best for my daughter, I don't understand how there are fathers and mothers who treat the lives they brought into this world like this.

The issue of money becomes irrelevant, because what's truly infuriating is how he has the audacity to mock his children, boast about his trips, parties, and luxuries, and humiliate their mother (my friend) for not having the same standard of living and spending as him, yet he's never even bought his children a pair of shoes, not even a box of crayons for school. When he's asked to fulfill his responsibilities, he gets offended, insults, attacks, plays the victim, invents nonsensical stories, and denies having any financial means. Even worse is when he tells her, "I want you to be the one to spend." There are no insults that can describe the scum he is.

In Venezuela, these procedures are a nightmare. They tell him that since he left the country, nothing can be done to force him to pay. And he knows it because he also mocks them, saying, "They're not going to do anything to me, there are no consequences for me, they're not going to put me in jail either." It's a shame that justice can't be served.

Unfortunately, this is all too common.

Spray and pray is a viable reproductive strategy for males, so these sorts of men persist in the gene pool.

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The world is full of irresponsible men who don't truly love their children and burden mothers with all the weight and blame. It's truly lamentable because the children pay the highest price.

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Traditional sexual morality is one of those Chesterton fences that we may regret having torn down

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Maybe so, but deadbeat dads are a tale as old as time.

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Unfortunately, this will continue to be the case as long as there is no justice and people suffer real consequences.

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2 sats \ 1 reply \ @Fenix 18h

women without strong male parents or relatives and very poor education are easy targets for this kind of stupidity, men like those you describe have a harem available for them.

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These situations are seen across all social strata and educational levels. Parents who, after years of marriage, divorce and then act as if they have no children. There are many different stories.

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