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59 sats \ 8 replies \ @Scoresby 3 Sep \ on: If You Could Change One Decision in Your Life, What Would It Be? AskSN

Have kids even earlier

I am actually having the fear that how can I still do the things I want to do or see the places I want to see when have kids. Isn't that when you have kids, your whole focus changes?

129 sats \ 5 replies \ @Scoresby 3 Sep

I don't think kids (I have three) have stopped me from seeing or doing things I want to do or see.

no question they take up time and alter your focus, but for me at least, I discovered that it made me be more ruthless with how I prioritized my goals.

besides, it's a lot of fun to bring them along to all the things you want to do and see.

112 sats \ 3 replies \ @Natalia 3 Sep

no question they take up time and alter your focus, but for me at least, I discovered that it made me be more ruthless with how I prioritized my goals.

idk is it the same as a mum VS as a dad. 👀

besides, it's a lot of fun to bring them along to all the things you want to do and see.

perhaps.

87 sats \ 2 replies \ @Scoresby 3 Sep

my wife worked for the last ten years and I was the primary caregiver for the kids. the burden of babies certainly falls more heavily on women than men (eg breastfeeding, the way pregnancy totally alters your body), but once you get past the first 6 months, it can be fairly equal. A lot depends on your partner and how they approach parenting.

112 sats \ 1 reply \ @Natalia 3 Sep

Don't you constantly worry about where the kids are, what they're doing, or whether they're safe, how can you still focus on learning or writing while a part of you is worrying someone else?