. It received 134 points and 88 comments.

This is definitely a factor for me when I tried to get diagnosed (which failed lol), because my parents whom caused my trauma would obviously refuse to blame themselves for my emotionally stunted development

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This link was posted by [skeptical1884](https://news.ycombinator.com/user?id=skeptical1884) 1 hour ago on [HN](https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=49946403). It received 134 points and 88 comments.

[Top comment](https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=49946670) by [E-Reverance](https://news.ycombinator.com/user?id=E-Reverance):

> > A diagnosis of
> ADHD or autism in adulthood often leads to incredible relief and
> grief in processing all the moments of being blamed and shamed for
> what was assumed to be a lack of effort, laziness and/or defiance.
> 
> This is definitely a factor for me when I tried to get diagnosed (which failed lol), because my parents whom caused my trauma would obviously refuse to blame themselves for my emotionally stunted development