I’m meeting a longtime friend whom I have known since I was 13 for dinner today. I think the last time I met him was two years ago - sometime after Christmas. Well, when two young children demand much of my time and energy, I have to let friendships fall by the wayside.
I’m quite confident that our friendship will last, though. Because we go a long way back.
Is meeting someone once a year or even two years enough for you to keep a friendship alive? How much maintenance do you think ought to be put into friendships?
Depends on your natural chemistries.
Often if you don’t see each other in a long time, you develop different habits and values, and grow apart.
You get influenced by who you spend time with.
Sometimes you notice your friends have developed normie habits (such as messaging/checking their phones all the time while in your company aka started to take your friendship for granted).
That’s a test for the friendship.
thanks for weighing in.
what struck me most about yesterday’s meetup was how we talked about random stuff - anything and everything under the sun. usually there is an organic flow to a conversation - how one topic leads to the next or how topics of similar themes get concentrated . So that randomness felt nice, like we could pick up from we had left off
For me, once every 1-2 years is enough if foundation strong. I have friends from 13 wey I no see for years but one call and we continue. When young kids dey chop your energy, real friends understand silence. Low maintenance, high trust.
Are your friends clanker bots too?
When you meet with them every 2 years, can you both still tolerate silent pauses without any awkwardness?
I can’t agree more with you