After being the bottom option for a while, I can sincerely recommend - have children! Try it, it will work out. Make that the mission. It will make everything else better. If you have medical issues making it harder, try couple IVF cycles if you want, but then just go for surrogacy or adoption. You will look back and feel like you should have done that sooner...

Also if you are still younger - freeze your sperm or eggs. It's not that expensive and it gives you more chances later. This is one of those things that no one tells you to do and when you figure it out it may be too late.