307 sats \ 12 replies \ @elvismercury 2 Jan \ parent \ on: On starting a family Ask_SN
Seems like this is one of those things where you're never really ready -- the goalposts will always move, you'll always want to be a little more certain, so beyond some very obvious criteria (e.g., don't be living under a bridge; don't be addicting to heroin), if you're gonna do it, you should do it.
Yeah, like some others commented already; Take the jump, most of the doubts and questions will answer themselves after.
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Here is where arranged marriages have an advantage. IDEALISTICALLY. Maybe not practically.
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Supposedly, there's no statistically significant difference between arranged marriages and whatever type of marriages we have.
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Read Thomas Sowell and then discuss statistics.
Two families coming together to link up is very powerful. Especially when shit gets rough there are coaches available to help transition.
But....
Not having "X" , a certain variable, is more of an excuse for failure than an attempt at success.
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My PhD covered more statistics than Sowell's did. Maybe just make your point, instead of being shitty.
All I was referencing is something I heard about mean failure rates of the two types of marriages.
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Note that you're the one who assumed I had no business discussing something due to my lack of knowledge. I made no similar assumptions about you (although, I'm beginning to).
If it's not part of your culture then it's an idea.
My experience has been two marriages.
My second one is almost 16 years and we still are affectionate with each other.
My first marriage I was young but also I was a very broken person.
I recommend working on yourself and doing exactly what you have done as in putting your goals out there.
Writing by hand is even more powerful as it takes many parts of your mind and brain to do this. This aligns with reality quite nicely. When you talk to women if they don't get your goals then let them go. If they have similar goals then it means you are going to the same place.
As far as the house goes, it's her cave, not yours so don't give it to just any woman. She must be worthy. Once it's given then it's hers. So if she is not frugal then you will be broke. If you are not frugal she may help but you better get frugal quick.
I'd also recommend developing a personal spiritual (breath rite) that is yours. This will help when you get lost.
Praying is good, too. Your own prayer, not some nonsense someone else uses, unless you need to borrow some nonsense, then it's coaching.
I wish you success!
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