Perhaps ~nostr will scale tech like Tor in the future. We just need Tor to get more adoption.

The problem with ‘decentralised’ VPNs is anything that’s newly built needs to get significant enough network effects to be ‘secure’. And without that being the case, how do you know who is your counter-party? And that they are not the same party every hop of the way?

At least with a company they have a track record, they have levels of transparency and their brand is on the line. Even if many do still abuse it.

To me it’s either VPN, multiple VPNs looped together like @orangecrush mentioned, or Tor.