separate the success you need from the success you want

Thriving demands clean water, nutritious food, and great friends. If you're healthy and have those things, everything else is 

. When you only need essentials, you can fail as fast and as frequently as your time on Earth will allow.

Becoming skilled at failing is like becoming skilled at anything. You express your present skill level as frequently as you can at the cost of nearly all other measures of performance. You'll make an earnest and diligent attempt at 

 needs to be something that you're unlikely to succeed at.

You may notice that as your failures grow, you begin to succeed reflexively and inadvertently. When this happens, you only need to find something harder that you'll definitely fail at.

Most of us have self-prophesies about our strength. This is only useful for manipulating ourselves and others into believing we can't fail. Fortunately lies don't survive contact with reality. Test your strength through action, not your stories about its action, and discover how to fail.

If you are in fact strong, you may feel like you can't fail, but you can. Any strength has limits beyond which we are weak. Strength often has a narrow area of application too. To fail, identify those limits and pursue feats of strength beyond them.

Successful people often teach us how to succeed but not how to fail. They tend to omit their failures and over generalize their success. We succeed by failing until we succeed or by getting lucky, and often we can't tell which made us successful exactly. One surprising way to fail is to take a successful person's wrong advice.

To learn how to fail as fast as possible, find people diligently failing to do the 

 you want to fail at. Move near them virtually and physically and learn how to fail with them. You will inherit their experience and increase your quantity of fails passively.

It's our nature to avoid failing. Seek discomfort to find ways to fail. Seek a quality of discomfort similar to the discomfort of puberty. Puberty is confusing, awkward, and exciting. It's a rapid and automatic succession of misunderstandings and novel failures. Puberty is what growth feels like and failing at worthwhile things will feel similar. To fail, pursue these feelings.

Learn how to fail because failure accompanies growth.

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### separate the success you need from the success you want

Thriving demands clean water, nutritious food, and great friends. If you're healthy and have those things, everything else is *extra*. When you only need essentials, you can fail as fast and as frequently as your time on Earth will allow.

### it's about quantity not quality

Becoming skilled at failing is like becoming skilled at anything. You express your present skill level as frequently as you can at the cost of nearly all other measures of performance. You'll make an earnest and diligent attempt at *something*, and to fail, *something* needs to be something that you're unlikely to succeed at.

You may notice that as your failures grow, you begin to succeed reflexively and inadvertently. When this happens, you only need to find something harder that you'll definitely fail at.

### embrace your weakness

Most of us have self-prophesies about our strength. This is only useful for manipulating ourselves and others into believing we can't fail. Fortunately lies don't survive contact with reality. Test your strength through action, not your stories about its action, and discover how to fail.

If you are in fact strong, you may feel like you can't fail, but you can. Any strength has limits beyond which we are weak. Strength often has a narrow area of application too. To fail, identify those limits and pursue feats of strength beyond them. 

### surround yourself with failures

Successful people often teach us how to succeed but not how to fail. They tend to omit their failures and over generalize their success. We succeed by failing until we succeed or by getting lucky, and often we can't tell which made us successful exactly. One surprising way to fail is to take a successful person's wrong advice. 

To learn how to fail as fast as possible, find people diligently failing to do the *something* you want to fail at. Move near them virtually and physically and learn how to fail with them. You will inherit their experience and increase your quantity of fails passively.

### steer into skids

It's our nature to avoid failing. Seek discomfort to find ways to fail. Seek a quality of discomfort similar to the discomfort of puberty. Puberty is confusing, awkward, and exciting. It's a rapid and automatic succession of misunderstandings and novel failures. Puberty is what growth feels like and failing at worthwhile things will feel similar. To fail, pursue these feelings.

Learn how to fail because failure accompanies growth.