Are you in your 20s? At least that’s my mental image of you. You certainly sound wiser than me!
Thank you for the flowers, @cryotosensei. I'm in my early 30s, and my son is about 5 years old now. Parenting is one of the most crucial aspects of life for me. I've spent a lot of time reflecting on my past, observing how my parents shaped my habits, and recognizing both the helpful and frustrating aspects of their approach.
Over the years, I've come to understand one crucial fact: there exists a narrow window of opportunity to establish "primal trust" between you and your children. In Germany, we refer to it as "Urvertrauen." If you don't invest in building this trust during the early years of your children's lives, it may never fully develop.
In my case, both of my parents worked hard, pursued studies, and built a house during my early childhood. As a result, my grandparents played a significant role in caring for me during this time, sometimes even more than my biological parents did. 30 years later we still get challenged with these trust issues between us. Nevertheless, I believe that having different individuals in your life to compare and learn from is crucial as a child. There's a german saying: "Für die Erziehung eines Kindes braucht es ein ganzes Dorf" (For the upbringing of a child, it takes a whole village).
By the way, I can't accept the "wise" compliment; I have to push it back to you. That's why I subscribed to your content :)
Keep up the good work!
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Someone wrote here before that our job as parents is to screw up our children less than the way our parents screwed us up.
Joking aside, I think it’s commendable how you dug deep into your childhood n decided to break the cycle that would otherwise have persisted if you have not been self-aware enough
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