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I see, so there's no way to be just publish to just a specific relay(as it's paid) and not public like the rest? like can you fix this option?
If set a nip-05 relay in your settings it doesn't work?
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what am I missing? you'll grab my public keys(nip05) and take the list of relays i have on it now and publish it + the relays in the picture.
wrong?
I'm asking you
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If you go to settings and set your relay does it publish to all the defaults too?
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This is ridiculous, I'm asking questions, and you're responding back with questions.
I asking you a simple question-can you get this to cross post to specific relays that are optional in SN settings for relays.
Because I do not want to publish to the default list.