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31 sats \ 4 replies \ @kepford 25 Jul \ parent \ on: The Bitcoin Conference Symbolizes the Loss of Meaning of the Bitcoin Revolution bitcoin
I'm no therapist. I don't agree with most of my family and many of my friends. It can be that your family is just terrible and toxic. It also could go both ways.
Someone that dislikes you fundamentally is not a friend. Family isn't a choice.
Some people are hard to get along with. I don't know. Don't think I can help you with your question but if I if I had friends that didn't like me I would find new friends. If my family could not stand me I wouldn't invest time with them. The real question to these questions it why is this the situation?
One other thought based on my experience. I find far more value in seeking to understand those around me than trying to correct them. People usually do not appreciate unsolicited advice/opinions. Most of us have heard plenty of family and friends tell us, you should do this or that. When you don't ask for that how does it make you feel?
Unless people are open to hearing your opinion on something it usually isn't worth getting into an argument about something. Most people haven't really thought about politics on a deep level. I would say most bitcoiners haven't either. There are a lot of bitcoin libertarians that really don't get political thought. That's fine. There are other things in life that are much more fun and rewarding.
My default is to find kind people that care about someone other than themselves. I usually do not care how they vote. If they like bitcoin. I don't try to "convert" them. If a door opens I will drop a comment about something I think they haven't heard. If they respond in a way that signals interest I engage. If not, I just let it go.
Often people just aren't as curious as I am about much of anything. That doesn't make me better than them. We fall into this trap of comparing ourselves to each other. This is where my faith and the teaching I received in the church helps. We are taught to NOT compare ourselves to each other. I think it is more helpful to compare myself to Jesus and my past self. Am I becoming more like Jesus? If I am it is probably only marginally. But am I improving myself? If I don't know what to work on I'm probably in deep trouble. Need to do some introspection and prayer. Areas to improve will pop up quick. This is where a therapist or clergy can help.
I know we live in an age of science and we think we prove everything using the method (never mind that the science comes out of the church) but there is massive value in communities of faith. A church. A small group of people that care about you and that you care about. I think people are looking for that. We need community. Real connection. In person.
We are all flawed and screw up. We will never find people that are perfect or even close. I am grateful for a community that cares about me despite my crazy ideas and overly analytical nature.
I'll leave you with this book recommendation.
The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion: Haidt, Jonathan. It is a great tool to help you understand the differences across cultures and political/religious ideologies. We all have value and need each other. A world full of only one kind of people would be terrible.
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Your question sounded like asking for the type of advice one would get from a therapist that's why.
I am glad to hear you have been healing. I don't know you or your situation but be careful about writing people off because they think Bitcoin is nuts and you are crazy for being so into it. People don't get it. Those that do are not average. We aren't better because of it. We are different. I would never write someone off that just thinks I am nuts about bitcoin. As I get older I care less and less what people think. That said, I rarely get angry at people for not seeing things my way. That's no way to live.
God bless you. I hope you continue to heal and find peace.