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100 sats \ 4 replies \ @Undisciplined 3 Aug \ parent \ on: Stacker News Live #131: Protests in Venezuela with PlebPoet bitcoin
Finally got to watch. Who would have thought we'd get a woman's perspective?
@plebpoet, do you think your answer to "What is feminity?" would differ if you had kids?
I said women want security and freedom. Security. and Freedom. Aren't these opposing forces? And that's the point. Isn't that what a woman is? She runs away from protection in search of freedom. She clings to security and sacrifices freedom. Having children fits inside this quite nicely I think.
I also said there are multiple ways of being, I could not possible capture femininity in a description or definition. That's why my answer if purposefully vague. You can invent meaning for yourself out of my flexible words: security and freedom. Use them as a valance over the life of someone you know, do you see these things as important to her?
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I think most men would expect an answer that included beauty, compassion, nurturing, etc. But, again, what do we know?
I was talking to my wife about this a bit. Her answer was something like I expected, except that she only feels that women are told that's what femininity is. It would be sad to me if there was no positive ideal of femininity that resonates with women, but rather just something that feels imposed by others.
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sure, femininity is learned. you find a positive ideal if you look.
I think women serve beauty uniquely, perhaps I should think more on how it fits into the mold that means femininity. But as soon as you start to define what a woman is, don't women get a little perturbed, no matter what? She wants freedom. She wants to be a contradiction. She wants to be beautiful and powerful. She wants to be weak and strong.
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Very informative. I have picked up on the antagonism towards being defined as a woman, even when it's self reflection.
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