I think your post was wildly overreacting. That was my point, in keeping my post modeled on yours. And yeah... the clowns get gorgeous girls.... have you ever asked those women what they like about those men? It might be a good exercise. Both young couples and older couples where the wives used to be smoking hot lol with a scrawny guy and now they're a cute old couple. Ask those women what they loved about the man they're with.

I do not want your sympathy any more than I would extend sympathy to you for settling for women acting like your sister.

And a lot of the women that would be a good partner also lack the looks, the boobs, or the hips, after all, in men's eyes. I do see where you're poking at, and I want you to do it both ways. :)

The question of women leaving POS is infuriating, isn't it, especially if you care for the woman. I completely agree. I've seen up close how complicated it is, and even how dangerous it is (leaving an abusive man is the time she is most likely to be killed, btw). But regardless, not my main point right now. Back to making sense of women..... you really should find those gorgeous women with men who appear clowns, or ugly, etc. and ask why they're with them. What do they like about them? God knows you need some examples different from your relative.

Nobody telling you to achieve x, y, and z was saying to do it to get the women, by the way. We're telling you to do it because it'll not only let you see your worth on an intellectual level, but to feel it in your bones. And that will be viscerally noticeable to women, you'll be less likely to feel ranty, you'll feel less stuck and held back by others.... look, you'll be happier even without a female, and you'll be more likely to get that one good woman in your life.... and...... what's this 'average girl demanding you to take her as is'........... don't be one of the men holding a woman back for 'traditional prescribed roles' and find a woman who wants to constantly improve. We exist. I'm one, and I know many others. These are the women I like to be friends with. We absolutely are out there. So.... no, don't go for the average girls not improving. Good god don't do that.

Women don't have it easier. Men don't have it easier. Humans have it rough.

And as for tainting your name.... lol trust me I get it. I've got a guy who did it to me recently, and he's even on stackernews is the funny thing. A lot of the people he convinced nasty things about me are on here too. They've got an entire fictional character of me at this point, I'm not even sure what all is said. Trust me, I get that danger. It's proof of a narcissist. The person I knew who did it before this guy was a woman. So you're not wrong.

That said..... I hope you can find some chill. You're going to find that love of your life, and she's going to be wonderful. Just don't get angry and bitter it's not today.