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32 sats \ 2 replies \ @Blank 20 Dec \ on: How do people live with their parents? alter_native
We had my partners mother move in with us right at the beginning of the 2019 COVID lockdowns. She was living by herself in another country, looking at not having a retirement because didn't have enough savings to live on the pension alone. We were about to have our first baby, and we really needed the support. So, I figured it would be a good idea to invite her to live with us, as it would be mutually beneficial to have help with our daughter, and so she can at least semi retire if she wanted to.
I gotta admit, even though things are better now. The first year or two were incredibly hard for everyone. Especially for my partner who was often in the middle of whatever disagreement I was having with her mother.
Fast forward nearly four years, and we can't imagine not having her around.
I'm glad to hear it smoothed out.
We have close friends who moved in with the husband's dad. The idea was that they would do that for a couple of years while they built their family home. It was such a strain on their marriage that it only lasted a few months and they're now getting divorced.
I can appreciate your partner's struggle. My mom has some habits that drive my wife nuts and I'm often trying to prevent problems from happening.
Btw, our daughters are about the same age.
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I'm sorry to hear your friends are now getting a divorce. I've honestly thought of leaving from time to time, but that usually means I just need some me time or time with my friends. Things have gotten steadily better as covid restrictions lifted and she got settled in her new life here in our country.
I think we got quite lucky with my mother in law, she doesn't really have any bad habits and has learnt to step back when it comes to how we raise our daughter. She's also a good source of advice or support when I need it too.
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