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Do you think it’s possible to have great social skills, yet remain independent?

172 sats \ 8 comments \ @cryotosensei 5h AskSN

I’m going to a primary school in July. Brand new working environment. Having changed jobs many times, I have prided myself on being adaptable and likeable. It’s not hard for me to absorb the vibes of a new place and channel that part of my personality that is a best fit - while remaining true to myself.

But perhaps because I move so much (as opposed to some teachers who teach at the same school for decades), I have developed an independent streak. I rather have lunch alone than expend my energy talking about inane things with colleagues whom I don’t particularly care about. Maybe that’s why some people have remarked that I am unorthodox. Since I don’t need to be part of the pack all the time, I have developed my unique and idiosyncratic way of looking at things.

This mayn’t bode well for my future career prospects because mixing more frequently with others will earn me more social capital, which helps people form more favourable impressions of me. But I don’t overthink this because I value my individuality. Solitude is priceless!

Are you the same way?

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72 sats \ 4 replies \ @Aardvark 5h

I moved around a lot my whole life too, even as a child. I'd say i developed the same sort of independence.

42 sats \ 3 replies \ @cryotosensei OP 3h

I suspect that many Bitcoiners have developed an independent mind, like you and me

Any place where you spent your growing up years in that you particularly miss?

24 sats \ 2 replies \ @Aardvark 2h

Any place where you spent your growing up years in that you particularly miss?

No, not really. I grew up in mostly shitty neighborhoods. My adult life is pretty good, so I don't really look back too often.

How about you?

42 sats \ 1 reply \ @cryotosensei OP 2h

I greatly miss my two years in Japan, in which I lived alone and didn’t have to be accountable to anyone,

Right now, my daughter is trying her best to press buttons on the bus. Grrrrr

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Aardvark 1h

Ok, now that you mention it, I really miss my one bedroom apartment when I lived alone too. I suspect that I may have also married an oni baba though, so it may be the time of life more than the place. 😉

24 sats \ 1 reply \ @OT 2h

Having lunch by yourself is OK. I think if you just acknowledge your colleges with something short and friendly that will stop any unwanted gossip.