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How resilient are you?
331 sats \ 15 comments \ @cryotosensei 7 Aug AskSN
I guess being resilient requires that we do not despair in spite of our less-than-ideal circumstances and fight our way through the labyrinth of problems that threatens to overwhelm us.
I think I am rather resilient. Teaching has toughened me up. Faced with more than 30 students and their myriad learning needs, I burn my energies every day, trying to support those who want to be taught - and coerce those who don’t.
Not forgetting parenting, which is my second full-time job. It comes with an entirely different set of pain points.
What keeps you fighting every day? How unbreakable are you?
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48 sats \ 3 replies \ @Scoresby 7 Aug
For many years, I had a writing project I was working on. Like you I had other obligations that often took priority over it. However, what spare time I could find, I put into this project. It formed a kind of armor for me. No matter what was going on in the rest of my life, I felt good about my writing, and that core of confidence extended quite a bit of resilience to the rest of my life.
I've been done with that particular writing project for some years now. Am I less resilient these days? Perhaps.
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136 sats \ 2 replies \ @cryotosensei OP 7 Aug
As an ENFP, I get started on a project with high intensity - but my passion also fizzles easily. I have set myself a goal to earn $150 from Google Adsense but haven’t been posting on my blog recently. Your sharing reminds me that I need to create space in my routine to make it easier for me to stick to this $150 goal.
Incidentally, my colleague shared with me yesterday that he would not leave our current school for ten years. He has founded the Floorball Club this year and is committed to channeling its growth since he’s passionate about floorball. As a free-spirited person, I kinda admire how he has set himself such a long-term goal
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24 sats \ 1 reply \ @Signal312 7 Aug
What's floorball?
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102 sats \ 0 replies \ @cryotosensei OP 7 Aug
Floorball is a fun, safe and fast-paced form of floor hockey developed in the 1970s in Europe.
It’s popular in Singapore because students are less likely to be seriously injured - unlike rugby
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48 sats \ 2 replies \ @Undisciplined 7 Aug
I’m not sure if I’m resilient or just stoic.
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42 sats \ 1 reply \ @cryotosensei OP 7 Aug
Ah. Given that the collocations that go along with resilience are growth mindset/perseverance/embrace mistakes/frame areas of growth as learning opportunities among Singaporeans, it’s refreshing for me to see resilience and stoic mentioned in the same vein
It also makes me realise what I have been missing. I have been pretty non-plussed in regard to my daughter’s tantrums, but I get myself overly stirred by my fifth graders’ lack of seriousness toward their studies. I need to be more STOIC toward them!
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Undisciplined 7 Aug
Remember, tantrums exist because they work. Cut yourself some slack.
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48 sats \ 2 replies \ @stack_harder 23h
I would say yes, because I manage to navigate the 4th turning while being present for family and kids, helping parents, and dealing with the endless wave-surfing of being self-employed.
Meanwhile, most of my younger cousins are depressed and on antidepressants, despite having pretty cushy lives.
I don't, and have never, let life's up and downs distract me from my main things like reading, training, and whatever else.
I think every little challenge we overcome, even small ones, add up to character building.
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14 sats \ 1 reply \ @cryotosensei OP 5h
I think taking time aside to do fun and nourishing things is just so important. It’s so easy to get consumed by a particular facet of our lives, be it work or family
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @stack_harder 3h
for sure, people get to a certain age and lose the ability to just have fun sometimes or take a day out to do something interesting
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48 sats \ 1 reply \ @Akg10s3 23h
I think resilience comes mostly from a spiritual perspective. What I mean is, I've heard the term "resilience" several times, and it always comes from Christian or evangelical people who dedicate their lives to following or seeking "God." And they see it from the perspective that no matter how many tests God puts me through, I will continue forward with even greater strength!
I think that if used well, applying resilience would be a good habit to obtain Peace.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @cryotosensei OP 5h
Good thoughts. Appreciate the sharing. I have never associated resilience with the tenacity God wants me to acquire through life’s trials, but I can relate to your words
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24 sats \ 2 replies \ @398ja 20h
Viktor Frankl's book, Man's Search for Meaning, always comes to mind when I think about resilience.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @stack_harder 3h
great book
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @cryotosensei OP 5h
That’s one of @carlosfandango’s favourite reads. I tried to search for his book review, but I think he might have deleted it
I saw your old comment on this book somewhere. How has it changed your worldview?
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