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Almost two months ago, I decided to try a little personal experiment (because I love doing that kind of thing): on weekends, I put my phone away. No notifications, no checking it "just for a second," no mindless scrolling.
At first, I thought it would be difficult (and it was). I had that silly anxiety of "what if someone texts me something important?" or "let me check the chat about this or that." But little by little, I realized something: absolutely nothing serious is happening. The world keeps turning, and you begin to reconnect with what really matters.
During these "offline" weekends, I managed to do a ton of things I'd been putting off for months:
  • I painted the house, which my wife had been complaining about for, I think, about 5 months.
  • I fixed a door that wouldn't close properly. I went out and got some oil and poured it on all the doors. They no longer make that "squeal" sound when they open.
  • I fixed some lights in the closet that were flickering, and the light switch was also giving me problems.
  • I finally taught my son to ride a bike (that moment is priceless!).
  • I changed the water filter.
  • I built some homemade equipment so my wife could do physical therapy with my son, who has Down syndrome.
  • We cooked together several times.
  • I cleaned the windows, which are both awkward and dangerous to clean (yes, the ones you always put off "for later, because the rain washes them away").
  • And above all, I did more things together with my kids.
None of this is epic, but each completed task gave me real satisfaction. I feel like the weekend has "substance" again, instead of being a blur of time wasted between apps and notifications.
After those weekends offline, even during the week I check my phone less.
And the strangest thing is that not only am I more productive, but I also feel calmer. I no longer feel "trapped" checking things every 20 minutes. My brain relaxes, conversations at home become longer, and time seems to stretch a little more.
This may not be for everyone, but if you're reading this and lately feel like the days are slipping away while you scroll, I encourage you to try it. Turn off your phone for a weekend. Do something with your hands. Finish that unfinished task.
When you do, you'll be surprised at how much you can recover just by disconnecting and reconnecting.
That's totally epic
I'll try to be more productive tomorrow
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But still SN right?
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I actually close everything on the weekends...!!
I'm only online during the week.
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This is pretty good. I admire your efforts here. It is so strange to me that twenty years ago, the only time I spent online was via a desktop. Thirty years ago, I didn't spent any time online at all. Now: I'm constantly online. It's so strange to think about all those hours.
I admire your efforts here. I know that I should probably try something similar myself...but I've always got a reason not to.
What tipped you over into making the decision?
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I realized I was constantly reaching for my phone without thinking, like a reflex. You know, that notification you get on your phone?, about 5 months ago I got: "You've used your phone 2 hours more than last week." I'd get that notification before, but I hadn't paid attention to it, so I decided to try to use it less. The next week it was only 30 minutes less, and I was like, what?????
I started to get annoyed by the amount of time I was wasting on things that didn't really matter, watching the news, arguing with someone in a chat, or just scrolling. So one weekend I decided to put it away and see what happened. And, honestly... I felt like I could breathe again.
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