Oh you lovebirds out there. You are madly in love, but you and your significant other are going to different states to pursue college. People around you have been advising you to break up. You know the odds of you and her/him making it are slim, but you wanna give it a shot anyway. After all, you are enticed by those TikTok videos flaunting couples who post “did we make it?” and stir viewers’ curiosity with photos of them growing together through the years. You want to take one such video yourself, darn it!
So here are some things you can do to ensure the longevity of your long-distance relationship. Sensei should know. He flourished his way through a long-distance relationship which levelled up into a long-distance marriage.
1. Planning is essential
Honestly, being in a long-distance relationship takes a hell lot of energy and commitment. You must be prepared with this mentality -You are not here to fu k spiders. Here’s an example:
2. Be clear about when to meet next
Being in a long-distance relationship is tougher when you don’t know when you will see the end of the tunnel. So, during your planning, you must articulate when you will meet your significant other next. That way, you will have something to look forward to. Remember, what you focus on expands. Again, Sensei will share generously from his life:
You can infer that my then-girlfriend planned to visit me in August 2013. So, because I had a countdown in mind, I could enjoy my freedom to the max. Oh yeah!
3. Talk regularly
Communication is so easy these days. Not to say that I spoke to her every day on the phone, but we easily communicated via LINE call 4-5 times a week. Each chat lasted for 30-60 minutes. Let’s get real. If I am talking to her, it’s rather unlikely that I have time to cheat on her, right? She would feel similarly assured.
If you are protesting about feeling tied down to chatting, then you may probably want to examine your feelings. Are you really into her?
Last words of advice. If Sensei can prevail through a long-distance marriage, so can you. Just don’t leap into the unknown without planning what to do next! Good luck and have fun!