it's been quite a while since i made a post here on stacker news.
i have been working alot on myself, my mental sanity and well being, and the biggest realization i've made is to have zero expectations in life. and let me tell you why.
1. you will be disappointed. guaranteed.
nothing. and i mean NOTHING. ever goes according to plan, no matter how prepared you think you are for something.
i have said this many times already, i went to japan. i expected a good opportunity, experience, and job for at least a year. the first and last things were absolute shit, but i came out of it with a really good learning experience. 65 days later, i am back at home as a better person who grew and understood alot more things about life.
of course i was disappointed, yet, there was a light that came about it.
2. the law of attraction activates.
during the course of this internal healing journey, i have learned that chasing things ultimately leads to you expecting something at the end. so i stopped chasing things, and have learned to just simply let them come my way. sometimes, the best thing you can do is little to nothing at all. two sayings i have been writing in my journal every night so far are:
- i do not chase, i attract. what belongs to me will simply find me.* (quoted from Thewizardliz based on a tiktok she talked about).
i receive good. i receive miracles. i receive everything that i need. (quoted from anila sita 101).
it's pretty crazy how well this works. when you truly learn to let go, things start to attract toward you. you gain a sense of comfort at what the universe can gift you, and you will find they come when you least expect it.
3. the overthinking in your brain stops, and you learn to live in today.
one of the most relieving things about having no expectations in life is that the overthinking that happens in your brain pretty much turns off. when you learn to fully trust that everything is okay, and you constantly remind yourself of the positives (what you do have, what you are grateful for both big and small, etc.), there is nothing to think about except for what is happening in front of you right now.
for instance, all i have presently did today was:
- giving gratitude for waking up, and reading off my positive affirmations.
- eating breakfast.
- starting a new book while catching some sun on a grassy field, while watching my boyfriend do his sprints.
- going to the gym, and getting a good pump in.
- showered, hanging out with my dog, and finishing a book.
- working on content stuff and applying for a few jobs.
- ate some food for dinner.
- writing for SN.
i have found so much peace in this mindset, and even in my present day i have no expectations. there are goals of course, but there is no overbearing pressure anymore. the stress and frustrations of yesterday and tomorrow, disappear.
all in all, life is so much more peaceful when you expect very little.
ever since i have been home, i have been putting so much pressure onto myself to hurry up and make money, and do all these things to hustle and catch up with my peers and family. i was in my head so much about what i didn't have, i forgot about all the things that i did have right in front of me.
for once, i have learned (and am still constantly learning) to put myself the fuck first. now, i simply let the universe and whatever god that exists out there to do whatever work it is behind the scenes. as long as i am putting forth efforts that are valuable to myself and hopefully to others, all is going to be okay.
and so far, it has been.