Parents’ Corner: It’s not easier \ stacker news ~alter

988 sats \ 29 comments \ @realBitcoinDog 25 Oct alter_native

I’ve been meaning to write a “Parent’s Corner” post for a while, and to see @grayruby write two before I could write one is crushing.

I dropped off our two year old daughter at daycare today for the first time in two days because she’s been sick. We’ve all been sick. Thank goodness I don’t have to work right now.

Ran into some fellow parents friends on the way out. They asked how’s it going?

“I could spend over an hour talking about how it’s been having a newborn the last three weeks, but all I can say is, it’s not easier. I thought having a second kid would be easier.”

Grateful for the supportive community here on Stacker News! 😅

If I never get around to founding a territory of my own, no one cares. Family first. Thank you @DesertDave for ~alter_native

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21 sats \ 5 replies \ @DesertDave 25 Oct

Give it a couple years. I have 2 kids that are about 1 year and a half apart. When they were old enough to play and young enough to enjoy each other, I feel it made it a lot easier. They spent a ton of time playing and entertaining each other.

11 sats \ 4 replies \ @realBitcoinDog OP 25 Oct

Thank you Dave! This is my hope!!

I’ve heard when they’re 4 and 6 those will be the magical years.

And up until 9 years old will they come running up to the door shouting “Daddy’s home! Daddy’s home!”

Then they’re double digits… 😂

10 sats \ 3 replies \ @DesertDave 25 Oct

Mine are 15 and 17. Still great friends. I think 2 is the sweet spot. Of course that's the only way I have had kids.

32 sats \ 2 replies \ @realBitcoinDog OP 25 Oct

I had loftier dreams of 3, maybe 5 kids!

But I don’t want to be a neglectful father. Clearly tho it’s already happened where we’re both focused on our newborn and then we’ll hear a crash from our daughter’s room and just be like,

hope she’s alright

10 sats \ 1 reply \ @DesertDave 25 Oct

I still could see having more. A new relationship. So maybe another pair. I love kids.

11 sats \ 0 replies \ @realBitcoinDog OP 25 Oct

Good luck!

10 sats \ 1 reply \ @OT 25 Oct

I think the theory will pay off at some point. We had the second one over a year ago. They're starting to play with each other which gives us a nice little break (until one of them gets hurt if course).

30 sats \ 0 replies \ @realBitcoinDog OP 25 Oct

THEORIES WILL BE TESTED

10 sats \ 1 reply \ @denlillaapan 25 Oct

splendid, my friend.

ALL THE BEST

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @realBitcoinDog OP 25 Oct

Thank you!

10 sats \ 5 replies \ @DEADBEEF 25 Oct

I hate to be the downer here but we’ve had two kids for a few years now and we’re still waiting for it to get easier. So far there’s no light at the end of the tunnel. If anything it has just gotten way harder in the last year.

10 sats \ 4 replies \ @realBitcoinDog OP 25 Oct

What happened in the last year to make it harder in particular?

10 sats \ 3 replies \ @DEADBEEF 25 Oct

Our youngest has now decided that sleep is overrated and our oldest is now in school so I get to bed very late (3am) and then have to get up at 6:30am to get our oldest off to school and then I have to go to work on just over 3 hours of sleep. Plus we had 6 months of continuous sickness where at least 1 person was sick at all times in our house.

50 sats \ 2 replies \ @realBitcoinDog OP 25 Oct

This is what I’ve learned.

Everybody always said, “it’s hard.” Or “it’s a sacrifice.”

But I wanted to know why is it hard? What am I sacrificing?

The answer is my body and health. If I want time for myself, I have to stay up late which compromises sleep and my health.

So the sacrifice is time for myself. Which I’ve learned I have to rebrand as time with the kids is for myself.

Or longer nature breaks with my phone on SN 😅

10 sats \ 1 reply \ @DEADBEEF 25 Oct

This is 💯 accurate.

10 sats \ 0 replies \ @realBitcoinDog OP 25 Oct

I feel seen 🫡

10 sats \ 3 replies \ @Undisciplined 25 Oct

We only have one, but I will say it gets more enjoyable around three or four, because they start really talking with you. Of course, that has its own drawbacks, too.

64 sats \ 2 replies \ @realBitcoinDog OP 25 Oct

“Daaaaaaad! Are you recording a podcast with @grayruby again? You know nobody thinks your hot takes are hot enough. When are you going to offer something original?”

“Love you too! 😭😭”

50 sats \ 1 reply \ @Undisciplined 25 Oct

We record after the little ones are asleep, so they can't make fun of us.

49 sats \ 0 replies \ @realBitcoinDog OP 25 Oct

checkmate toddlers

10 sats \ 3 replies \ @Msd0457890 25 Oct

Thank you for sharing your experience as a father. I am a first-time father and I totally agree with you, it is not easy at all.

1 sat \ 2 replies \ @realBitcoinDog OP 25 Oct

it makes me have more sympathy for ppl who don’t want kids?

Don’t want em? Not ready? Fine! It is a lot!!

Trouble is I find ppl who would make the best parents and are most financially sound choose against it, and those who are still putting together their own lives end up having em!

10 sats \ 1 reply \ @Msd0457890 25 Oct

You are right, I have known people who could have them and don't. You have made me remember that my friend has wanted to be a father for years and can't, he chose to adopt and it changed the life of a child.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @realBitcoinDog OP 25 Oct

That’s good!

10 sats \ 1 reply \ @Signal312 25 Oct

It gets easier. And honestly, more fun too. It's a wild ride, try hard to enjoy it while it's happening!

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @realBitcoinDog OP 25 Oct

Well that’s definitely the fun of the second kid is I know to appreciate this newborn phase more.

It felt like FOREVER the first time, but now I know to appreciate those skin-to-skin cuddles for as long as I can!

10 sats \ 1 reply \ @grayruby 25 Oct

A newborn and a two year old is definitely not going to be easy but what an adventure.

Enjoy the ride sir. Mine are 14 and 6 and I don't know where the time has gone.

14 sats \ 0 replies \ @realBitcoinDog OP 25 Oct

Everybody says, “they grow up so fast! I turn around, and he’s asking for the car keys!”

But I was reflecting how, for everyone who says it goes by fast, NO ONE says it’s easy 🤣

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @cryotosensei 26 Oct

I have to say it gets worse. My boy is 5, and my girl almost 2. Some of my worst memories involve the son asking his incessant questions and daughter throwing tantrums about what she wants/doesn’t want to eat. I salute those who have 3 or more kids. I just cannot put myself through this again haha

Btw I listened to your sexy voice but didn’t finish it because my son came to press pause and I stopped collecting sats from Fountain. But I see your PoW as an effort to entice Redditors to come over to the world of Bitcoin