I’m also considering having a day of silence soon. I’ve been thinking about it for a while, and something about it really excites me. How will it affect my attention or my thoughts when it’s been hours since I last spoke?
I've been thinking for a while about the modes people can be in, where I define "mode" as a general configuration of yourself toward yourself, and also to the world; and what gives rise to these different modes, and what are their consequences.
It's taken a remarkably long time to start to figure this out.
I mention it because the day of silence sounds incredible, but you might begin even more gently, and pay attention to what you're doing (even in moments when it doesn't feel like you're doing anything) and what the consequences of that are.
For instance, I have become more and more convinced that something powerful happens when I consume other people's thoughts, on SN or anywhere. Reading people's thoughts and opinions puts me in a certain mode; and different ways of them expressing themselves has very different consequences. When they're contemptful, forceful, un-nuanced, hostile, it does something to me, even when none of it is directed my way. Likewise when they are kind. And many other flavors besides.
A day of "silence" could include not talking, and you'd probably notice some interesting stuff -- I'm sure you would. But there are probably other things just as extreme, or more extreme, to be noticed. What happens if you smile at someone, and they smile back? What happens if you listen really hard and try to make them feel listened to? What happens if you pet a stranger's dog? What happens if silence includes silencing yourself, to yourself?
I feel like I'm only at the beginning, but maybe that it's finally the right beginning.
Yes, it doesn't seem like it because I'm not good at it, but I would say I do want to move on. Seems like I just haven't figured out yet how to make this happen, even though I was able to move on from other things.
I move on from things when it feels like they happened to a different person. So maybe it just takes time?
I mostly meant conversations in passing where I used a lot of words without saying much. I think if I keep myself shorter, I focus more on the important stuff to say. I don't want to waste anyone's time 👀
I honestly didn’t perceive that but I can understand. I, myself, say a lot of words to explain something simple, but I just tend to think that’s part of personality (at least that’s my excuse)
yes, it's part of one's personality but I think personality is malleable. The desire to "craft one's personality" is also part of personality though haha
I've been thinking for a while about the modes people can be in, where I define "mode" as a general configuration of yourself toward yourself, and also to the world; and what gives rise to these different modes, and what are their consequences.
It's taken a remarkably long time to start to figure this out.
I mention it because the day of silence sounds incredible, but you might begin even more gently, and pay attention to what you're doing (even in moments when it doesn't feel like you're doing anything) and what the consequences of that are.
For instance, I have become more and more convinced that something powerful happens when I consume other people's thoughts, on SN or anywhere. Reading people's thoughts and opinions puts me in a certain mode; and different ways of them expressing themselves has very different consequences. When they're contemptful, forceful, un-nuanced, hostile, it does something to me, even when none of it is directed my way. Likewise when they are kind. And many other flavors besides.
A day of "silence" could include not talking, and you'd probably notice some interesting stuff -- I'm sure you would. But there are probably other things just as extreme, or more extreme, to be noticed. What happens if you smile at someone, and they smile back? What happens if you listen really hard and try to make them feel listened to? What happens if you pet a stranger's dog? What happens if silence includes silencing yourself, to yourself?
I feel like I'm only at the beginning, but maybe that it's finally the right beginning.
If I may be brutally honest, it doesn’t seem like you wanna let the past go. You really miss her, don’t you?
Reflecting on the past is very much what evolves our thinking. And it will inevitably make us seek a better future.
I don’t think there’s much to miss when there are decades of exploration ahead of us.
Except that I don’t have many decades left. 3, maximum 4, haha
Yes, it doesn't seem like it because I'm not good at it, but I would say I do want to move on. Seems like I just haven't figured out yet how to make this happen, even though I was able to move on from other things.
I move on from things when it feels like they happened to a different person. So maybe it just takes time?
Sometimes
Thank you for your honesty
I think matters of the heart cannot be resolved with a head approach. I agree that time helps dull the sensations
Keep writing, though
thank you!!
you have a link to localhost:1313 on the page:
Thank you, fixed!
I don't know why that happens sometimes when I build the site. Simply building it again fixes it.
We might've yapped a lot but for sure those were some of the best yapping sessions I've ever had, thank you for everything ^^
Oh, I for sure didn't mean you, haha
I mostly meant conversations in passing where I used a lot of words without saying much. I think if I keep myself shorter, I focus more on the important stuff to say. I don't want to waste anyone's time 👀
we did yap good though
I honestly didn’t perceive that but I can understand. I, myself, say a lot of words to explain something simple, but I just tend to think that’s part of personality (at least that’s my excuse)
yes, it's part of one's personality but I think personality is malleable. The desire to "craft one's personality" is also part of personality though haha
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