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Making friends later in life...how do you "eat a bag of salt together"?
1377 sats \ 7 comments \ @Signal312 9h alter_native
This is apparently a quote from Aristotle "To be a friend to someone you must eat a sack of salt together" (though doing some research, it's not necessarily actually from Aristotle).
Back then, salt would be purchased/stored in bags. It would take a LONG TIME to go through a bag. Thus, you need to spend a lot of time with someone (in other words, go through the whole bag of salt) in order to make friends.
This definitely has the ring of truth for me. But how do you do this, when you're not in school, not working in person, and moved to a new place?
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100 sats \ 0 replies \ @nichro 1h
Hobby or activity group can help. Chess, book club, Warhammer, or hiking etc.
It can work if it's a regular thing, but imo to truly make friends if it clicks with some people, you want to make friends outside the context of the hobby too. Like grab a drink or catch a show instead of just playing chess every Thursday.
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242 sats \ 0 replies \ @Scoresby 8h
It's hard. My wife and I talk about this often. Having kids can help because you kinda end up spending time with the other kids' parents. But I have to admit that this actually hasn't worked too well for us: haven't made any friends this way.
It's doubly complicated because life is so mediated through the internet now. Most of the new relationships I've formed in the last few years have started online -- due to bitcoin mostly.
Most practical advice I have? Go to meetups about topics you're interested in. Feels awkward at first, but it's a great way to get to know people.
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10 sats \ 0 replies \ @Aardvark 4h
Dude, I have no idea how to make friends anymore. I'm in my 40's, no children, and I got nothing. I'm actually trying to make new friends, so if you come up with something, let me know.
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50 sats \ 0 replies \ @denlillaapan 7h
It would take a LONG TIME to go through a bag. Thus, you need to spend a lot of time with someone (in other words, go through the whole bag of salt) in order to make friends.
This I find. It's just time spent, really.
Wise words
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78 sats \ 0 replies \ @nathanael 8h
That is a good question. I just posted that on Nostr today: «I might start a local bitcoin meetup.» I feel a bit isolated at the moment and I think starting a meetup would be a good idea to meet like minded people. Before I would start one, maybe look if there is already something like that near you.
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10 sats \ 0 replies \ @Solomonsatoshi 8h
It gets more difficult as you age but if you can find people with a common interest that is a good starting place.
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