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510 sats \ 4 replies \ @Natalia 7h \ on: When is freedom bad? AskSN

sometimes restrictions set you free, two examples come to my mind so far:

Constantly roaming around, aka living anywhere you want, versus having a home base where you can focus on learning or creating.
Having a dedicated partner who grows with you versus dating around.

That really depends on whether you chose those restrictions though?

If I give you a nice home base in the Tower of London and marry you to Brutus against your will, does it really matter that you have the home base and a dedicated, brute, partner?

99 sats \ 1 reply \ @Scoresby OP 4h

Fair. it's not a choice is isn't freely chosen. *Voluntary restrictions may be a key. Far more interesting though is the thought that involuntary restrictions could result in setting you free. Take for example addiction: preventing an addict from accessing the source of their addiction might possibly set them free (I've been around enough addiction to know that this only occasionally works...but it does occasionally work).

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @optimism 4h

I think that if you have the freedom to choose your restrictions, then your chosen restraint can be really great for you, if you choose well. As someone that actually once upon a time had a far less than awesome marriage I know that's not a given, but I chose freely so I can own it and I do. I know plenty of people that didn't get to make these choices though, and some of them are stuck in bad places, and they don't get to experience much of that freedom.

Take for example addiction: preventing an addict from accessing the source of their addiction might possibly set them free

Is it the act of prevention (and mind you this is targeted, so it's almost incomparable to generic restrictions to freedom) that makes it occasionally work, or is it that and reform, or even simply a lot of care and love and positive stimulation that does that?

I personally subscribe to the latter because I think that the act of taking something away on its own is likely to be perceived as a punishment and therefore often an invitation to regression, but maybe, if something else comes in the place of the addiction, there could be a positive result.

333 sats \ 0 replies \ @Scoresby OP 7h

my wife and I talk about this all the time in the context of our single friends. Committing to a partner definitely creates freedom. Freedom to take risks that you couldn't take with someone who might leave you at a small inconvenience, freedom to be honest with each other, freedom to let your guard down and be vulnerable, and on and on.

In English "freedom" is maybe too blunt a word. I'm sure there are nuances here that other languages may have the words for.