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I don't think I can stay with my normie partner
1387 sats \ 34 comments \ @anon 15h bitcoin
I've recently been to a Bitcoin conference and met sooooo many cool people with whom I have so much in common.
Meanwhile I'm being told by my not working partner that I waste money on those conferences and I don't get anything out of it. She is a normie whom I forced to stack sats with the money I give her but she doesn't even get self custody.
We have 2 kids but we are not married and I keep on asking myself - should I stay because this is the right thing to do? Or should I live my life and find someone who gets it?
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799 sats \ 2 replies \ @SimpleStacker 15h
If you live together with your kids you should stay together, and even get married. It's worth it for their sake. Bitcoin is not everything in life...
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @kepford 1h
Indeed
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @fiatbad 9h
Bitcoin is not everything in life
I dunno... I'm with Patrick Henry: "Give me liberty or give me death!"
I think we should be acting like Bitcoin is everything, at this point in history. Maybe we should stop using their slave money, and start doing whatever we can to resist them. That includes the company we keep.
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204 sats \ 9 replies \ @DarthCoin 15h
I waste money on those conferences
She's 100% right in that sense. BTC conferences are a waste of money. Instead go to bitcoin meetups and take her with you.
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111 sats \ 6 replies \ @SwapMarket 12h
I agree. To pay money for watching ads is dumb. All the cool people are online.
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0 sats \ 5 replies \ @gregtonoski 8h
While I agree that paying for watching ads is dumb, I can see advantages on the flip side as there is bright plebs all around at a conference and after-parties, fun, behind the scenes talks etc.
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0 sats \ 4 replies \ @DarthCoin 8h
"behind the scenes" are not conferences. You can have same fun at btc meetups and for less money. BTW you will never see at a btc conf saying / teaching how to fuck the gov.
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0 sats \ 3 replies \ @SwapMarket 7h
Dev/hack/day in Prague was the only organized event I attended, anonymously, and some rooms were interesting. There was a panel about privacy/fucking the feds, with Juraj Bednar, Max Hillebrand, Sjors Provoost, and Calle wearing a face mask.
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26 sats \ 2 replies \ @DarthCoin 7h
In 2015 I was organizing some btc meetups in my local community. Once I announce a meetup as "how to fuck the govs and banks". Very few people come up. Another day I announce it as "how to invest with bitcoin". Ofc was a trap title just to see how many scammers will come. And ofc were many idiots attending.
People are retarded.
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0 sats \ 1 reply \ @gregtonoski 8h
OP also wrote: "(...) met sooooo many cool people with whom I have so much in common." and "(...) the money I give her but she doesn't even get self custody". What would you advise about those?
BTW I met you at a conference.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @DarthCoin 8h
BTW I met you at a conference
prove it
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163 sats \ 1 reply \ @398ja 12h
You sound delusional, and not very self-aware:
  1. You cannot meet someone at a conference, and think you have "so much in common" to the point that you're considering leaving the mother of your children... You'll lose the respect of your children, and your future partner.
  2. I assume she's looking after your two kids, so it's unfair to say she's not working.
It's obvious you're making excuses for something else, and found in bitcoin a good alibi. Have you ever entertained the thought that she may be right in her assessment?
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @kepford 1h
Worth listening to this.
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53 sats \ 0 replies \ @grayruby 15h
I don’t think you should end your relationship over bitcoin. If you have other issues that is one thing but one person in the family who gets it is enough.
In regards to spending money on conferences. I would just put it this way “this is my passion and my money. I would like you to share in that. I understand if you don’t want to but I am going to continue doing what I am interested in and enjoy.”
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39 sats \ 0 replies \ @tttooocccooolll 11h
People > Money
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21 sats \ 0 replies \ @SwapMarket 12h
My wife does not get it either. Has a normie job, invests in normie assets and pays taxes. She calls it diversification. That is her life and I am fine with it.
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92 sats \ 0 replies \ @Scoresby 15h
Kids are probably more important than your stack. I don't know if you should stick with your partner, but breaking up over not being orange-pilled (especially when you got children) seems like a thing that you might regret.
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52 sats \ 0 replies \ @Bell_curve 12h
I find it hard to believe you met cool people at a conference
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36 sats \ 1 reply \ @freetx 15h
I understand the struggles, but dont try to make all your interest her interest. Great marriage partners are not "shared interest friends". Personally I think the best marriage partners are where there are complimentary differences. You should bolster her weaknesses and vice-versa. Its great, but completely unnecessary that you have lots of shared interest.
Furthermore, your kids are 1000x more important than this.
It sounds like the root of this issue is that (a) She is not working which you feel resentful over, plus (b) You are actively trying to better your families situation and she is telling you that you're wasting money.
Frankly if she isn't earning and your kids are being taken care of, I don't think she gets a say in the matter. She can voice her opinion and you should consider it, but you are under no requirement to follow her wishes. Just like you probably don't get a say in certain aspects of the house situation / kids rearing that is her primary responsibility.
Thinking of marriage as a "Joint Venture" (ie. Raising Kids, Inc) is less romantic, but more practical way of looking at marriage. You are in charge of certain aspects of this joint venture and she is in charge of certain aspects...you both need to respect each other and support where you can. This is what the marriage contract is all about....
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18 sats \ 0 replies \ @Bell_curve 12h
Division of labor
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10 sats \ 0 replies \ @BITC0IN 12h
you're still a noobie if you think bitcoin conferences are worth going to.
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79 sats \ 0 replies \ @stack_harder 14h
i mean, it's normal for spouses not to always love the same things, but if bitcoin has become a huge moral thing of importance for you, i would suggest maybe couples therapy first.
Or maybe just accept that she will remain a normie that refuses to have btc foisted upon her lol
if, on the other hand, you kind of just don't love your wife anymore, and the btc issue is the tip of the iceberg, I would say you have some introspection and thinking to do.
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18 sats \ 0 replies \ @optimism 13h
whom I forced to stack sats
Perhaps this is not helping?
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16 sats \ 0 replies \ @flat24 15h
asking myself - should I stay because this is the right thing to do? Or should I live my life and find someone who gets it?
It is a very difficult question to answer.
But with all due respect I will tell you my opinion.
Having two children, with that person, makes it automatic to someone to consider. And it is your job to think about how to make him see the world as it really is (awakening about Bitcoin and the other system illusions)
mainly for your children, grow without a father or with separate parents (it is almost always shit)
Make a greater effort and teach him.
On the other hand there is also the option, that it has no salvation and it is best to run away, keep your children at a distance and continue your life. (Of course it is a valid option) I personally think that there are people who have no salvation or there is no way to change their stupid thoughts of sleeping norm.
But do not give up without fighting, and without trying to save your relationship (if you determine that it is worth it, obviously)
Meanwhile I'm being told by my not working partner that I waste money on those conferences and I don't get anything out of it.
Go through something similar with my wife, after being Shitcoiner and losing money in 2021 with cryptocurrencies, when I told him in 2023 that Bitcoin was the way to follow, she looked at me as if I were crazy and stupid. And I thought I wasted my time when spent days in podcast, books, tutoriles and other resources.
But today two years later, we have studied more and learned more and she has also been able to observe Bitcoin's benefit, and not only the benefit for the climb, but has been able to understand everything that Bitcoin contains, cryptography, privacy, hard money, without permission, among other good things of Bitcoin.
Today I can proudly say that my wife listens to the call, woke up and is a more apprentice bitcoiner for the group.
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0 sats \ 1 reply \ @Hodl117 11h
Definitely do not separate over this. The kids are worth it, even after they're grown. You may never find anyone willing to be more loyal to you than the woman you have kids with. Get married if not already. (By using the term "partner", it seems that you are not.)
Also, some unsolicited advice: Find a church in your area and start attending regularly. You might unexpectedly find people you share values with there, as well, and find a deeper meaning in life.
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21 sats \ 0 replies \ @Hodl117 11h
P.S. Once you are married, your money is her money. Share everything. There's no, "money I give her"; there is "our money". If it worries her too much that she can't stand how much bitcoin you own because of its volatility or the fact that "it could go to zero", then you need to sell some and/or have some long, patient conversations educating her what Bitcoin is.
My wife and I got married in the deep of the bear market, May 2022. She had a job at the time, and we were saving all her money in a separate account and living off my money, because we eventually wanted to live off my income. I had everything in bitcoin. She started getting worried and talked to her parents about it, who in turn talked to me. My parents also repeatedly talked to me about it. I kept my conviction and held through it. Eventually we had a kid, and she quit her job to say at home. It's only been in the past year or year and a half that she's said she trusts me saving the money bitcoin. So, it may take time for her to come around to unity with you on Bitcoin once she sees the price appreciate to a certain point.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @jbschirtzinger 3h
You shouldn't be with anyone right now, but because you have kids, you should be with them.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @SilkyNinja 8h
Ought you not to be ashamed of being an unmarried father?
Would you rather someone “get you” or “get it”!
What is “it.”
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @guerratotal 9h
Friend, my wife is like that, but she respects my things, I have tried several times to teach her but she doesn't seem to like those things, so I just try to motivate her with some videos, posts, etc. that make her think, also, like everything, tomorrow you can lose everything but your family will be there... you should never exchange money for your family, join her more, love her, and understand her too, and little by little you will lead her on the path, but don't throw everything away for money
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @senf 10h
Or should I live my life and find someone who gets it?
Don't be retarded.
She is a normie whom I forced to stack sats with the money I give her
That doesn't sound healthy, let her do what she wants with the money you give her.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @Solomonsatoshi 12h
Children and relationships are more ultimately important than Bitcoin. My son and wife only 'get' Bitcoin as far as NGU and most people I know don't even get that much of it. Yes it is frustrating but not worth ending important relationships over. Do not give up gently educating but some people simply do not have the mindset or inclination to understand Bitcoin to a deeper level. Stick with it and work toward your loved ones ultimately being capable of understanding Bitcoin while realizing there are substantial forces working against that in the MSM and societal narratives pushed by fiat operators.
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @fishious 13h
It's possible you yourself might not even like having your partner be a bitcoiner who is more hardcore than you.
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