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How long does it take you to bounce back from a setback?
322 sats \ 6 comments \ @cryotosensei 13h AskSN
About 48 hours for me.
This Friday, I was called into my vice principal’s office and told in no uncertain terms that my teaching methods were inappropriate. I would be given a written warning. This might have serious repercussions on my career.
I kept ruminating about it this weekend. Why was I hammered down for going the extra mile to help my students? What would happen to my family if I were let off from my job two years from now? All sorts of thoughts riddled my mind and crippled my mood.
It wasn’t until Sunday that all these negative thoughts began to loosen their grip on my mind. I know this because my mind started crafting sorry WhatsApp messages that I would send to my school leaders and direct supervisor tomorrow morning. If I were still hung up over this, I would be too self-conscious and embarrassed to want to initiate contact. I would still want to dig a hole and jump inside to hide.
No doubt, a written warning may be considered a minor impediment in the grand scheme of things but it felt kinda catastrophic to me. In any case, do you bounce back from setbacks well?
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48 sats \ 2 replies \ @optimism 10h
"Bounce back" asap, but do allow yourself to explore the mistake (or convince yourself that it wasn't.) That you think about it means you're not a sociopath.
Can't change what happened though, so no point in stalling out.
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100 sats \ 1 reply \ @cryotosensei OP 7h
Thanks for reading and for your comforting words.
Well I don’t exactly regret what I did, but I feel sick to my stomach because I might have compromised my job prospects for my children - all because of students whom I hardly know. Haha
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @optimism 3h
Judging by your words since Friday, you seem to have been hit by it a bit, which to me seems perfectly normal (for people with a conscience.) I personally have scenarios where I messed up from decades ago that I still think about sometimes. Those will always stay with me. I think this is just the process of learning things the hard way.
Let it help you in the future, but don't let it overwhelm you! Forward, and onward.
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24 sats \ 1 reply \ @Zion 10h
24 hours for me, I just mop around for a bit then I start all over
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @cryotosensei OP 7h
Wow 24 hours. That’s fast.
I thought I had gotten over it, but I am moping again haha
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0 sats \ 0 replies \ @plebpoet 7h
impossible to think this warning could be justified. . .but you didn't focus on that in your writing here. That's part of bouncing back, so kudos.
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