If it's not your node then it's someone elses node, always has been that way.

If a Lightning wallet tells you otherwise it's because they see YOU as the product. 

So the only way to have complete self-custody with lightning sats is to run my own nodes? 

spiderman

nostr

Coinos Wallet Disappeared, Any Substitute?

Yea everything Blockstream is scammy

Green is a cloud node, but the keys live on your device, this makes it "non-custodial" per their marketing and lawyers... but the node is still hot on their hardware, this is Trustodial. 

It's also not as useful as a VPS or the like because of the interactivity required with your device... it's very dumb and pointless... unless the point is for them to generate fees.

Anecdotally I've heard from wallets that integrated with it that they're complete clowns with support, 0 regard for when users are down, not serious at all.