i think its a completely misguided line of thinking.

if bitcoin is money, then why do you care what the counterparty to the transaction does with their money after the transaction was complete? You paid for the service/product, if you're satisfied with the transaction thats the end of it. The food doesn't taste better if the sats end up in your favorite brand of hardware wallet. Its not your money anymore. You're not giving away your children for adoption to a good family, you are paying for a service.