I’m very pro-prenup — but not from a fear-based or gender-war perspective.

A prenup is simply adults setting the rules for their own marriage instead of outsourcing those rules to the government. If you don’t define them yourselves, the state will — and that outcome depends on who’s in power and where you live at the time things end.

I see prenups as mutual protection, not something “for men only.” They protect assets, expectations, future income, and — just as importantly — they force honest conversations before marriage. No surprises. No assumptions.

From a matchmaking perspective, prenups are actually a green flag when they’re done transparently and fairly. They signal foresight, it also signals true love for their partner in its most pure form (wanting the best for their partner irregardless of them) responsibility, and clarity — not distrust.

ALSO, rich men do NOT get married without a prenup hahaha when did you see that? you have to be kind of dumb to take the most important financial decision of your life (who you are marrying) in an unorganized way.

The key difference from red-pill framing is this:
A prenup shouldn’t be about defending yourself from your spouse. It should be about designing a marriage with eyes open, so neither person is gambling their future on politics, courts, or ambiguity.

Handled correctly, prenups reduce resentment — they don’t create it.