Thank you for sharing. I have an interest in Chinese philosophy and will check out Lao Tzu.

In the martial art I practice, we have the principles of simplicity, efficiency, and directness in achieving ones goals. In fighting this goal is, of course, to hit. But, I've been practicing using these principles in communication and discission making. They don't always translate 1 to 1, but I enjoy the the challenges of adjusting to achieve the goal at hand. From your quote, I appreciate the ideas of simplifying your thinking and in conflict to be fair and generous.

Regarding governing and control, there is another principle from our art of letting go when under pressure. The more you fight an opposing force and try to control the more control you actually lose. I believe we can draw a relationship from governance of life and others, to governance of one's own body and mind, within this concept of letting go of control. For me, this can be challenging, as I have an over-controlled personality. I have to remember letting go of control does not necessarily mean giving up.

I love your idea of building a retreat for men. I hope you are able to achieve this in the future.