I'm talking about wallets like Phoenix, Blixt, etc.
In my mind self custody is trustless. Like with a bitcoin cold wallet. But with these so called 'non custodial' lightning wallets I do have to trust them.
Sure I have an actual lightweight node running on my phone, but I can't open any channels on my own. I only get private (unpublished) channels to the developers node. So the devs can see all of my payments and theoretically censor them (or be forced by government to censor them). And if their node goes down for whatever reason I can't use it anymore.
It feels like to me that they are just like custodial wallets with an extra step and more expensive because you have to pay the fees for opening the private channels.
Only way for true self custody is to run your own node I guess.
Or is my understanding of non custodial wallets wrong? Am I missing something?