If you want a closed ecosystem targeting a very specific user experience, go Apple. This has always been the case and it is unclear to me why anyone is shocked?

If you want anything else your only other choice, unfortunately is Android. So get a phone you can root and install graphene on. For the app store use F-droid. Encourage everyone else to do the same.

Tools are already out there. Most people really just don't care. So just figure out ways to take care of yourself and really let the rest roll off your shoulder.