Studies show that we speak about 16,000 words every day.

But those aren’t the only words that you say. Throughout your day, you’re also constantly speaking, inside of your head, to yourself.

As you go about your day today, I want to invite you to pay attention to the difference between the way that you speak outwardly to others and the way that you speak inwardly to yourself.

What do you notice? If you’re like most people, you’ll quickly realize that you speak to others with far more care, concern, and kindness. It can be shocking to realize how poorly we treat ourselves.

With this awareness, I hope you’ll feel empowered to make the shift to speaking to yourself with that same care.

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222 sats \ 1 reply \ @Michelson_Morley 8 Sep 2023

I don't think I'm mean to myself but i'm a real lil bitch so what do I kno———WAAAIT A SECOND.

Seriously though, I'm a big sceptic of these kind of "studies" (how did they measure that people speak 16000 words? is it 5 sigma certain?...). How am I supposed to know how I speak to myself, why would I devote attention to that?

From what I've learned (from Dr Jordan Peterson, who's expertise is in no doubt), thinking introspectively, thinking about yourself, is about as close to physically hurting yourself as you can get.

I'd say a more fruitful strategy is to try to live an honest life and gain enough competence to be able to protect your family and friends, try to build a family, that's a better way to become happy than to try to be nice to yourself.

50 sats \ 0 replies \ @nemo 9 Sep 2023

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1 sat \ 3 replies \ @elvismercury 8 Sep 2023

If you’re like most people, you’ll quickly realize that you speak to others with far more care, concern, and kindness.

I don't think this is a problem most bitcoiners on social media suffer from :/

1106 sats \ 2 replies \ @m00ninite 8 Sep 2023

I think that comes down to being on The Internet. Most people are a bit more mindful of their interactions in person (most, not all)

https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/greater-internet-fuckwad-theory

0 sats \ 1 reply \ @elvismercury 8 Sep 2023

Ha! I hadn't heard that term before, but what an apt description. It suggests that maybe I should be less sad than I normally am about how horrible people are. Which isn't to say that they're not horrible, but that their behavior online maybe should be given less weight than I generally attribute to it.

Also makes you wonder how you could architect things s.t. people were less fuckwaddish than they might default to being using the standard paradigm.

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @m00ninite 8 Sep 2023

Yea, idk if there's a way to get people to be less fuckwadish. That comic is from 2004, far before we got toxic social media. Certainly we can do less to encourage it through design (looking at you, Twitter)

0 sats \ 0 replies \ @grayruby 8 Sep 2023

My 5 year old can hit that number in about 5 minutes. Haha

493 sats \ 7 replies \ @nemo 8 Sep 2023

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0 sats \ 6 replies \ @TNH OP 9 Sep 2023

is this your own content?

somehow yes

0 sats \ 5 replies \ @nemo 9 Sep 2023

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0 sats \ 4 replies \ @TNH OP 9 Sep 2023

😎

0 sats \ 3 replies \ @nemo 9 Sep 2023

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21 sats \ 2 replies \ @TNH OP 9 Sep 2023

can't own the full ownership, it's a team effort. I work on it and I'm happy to share it and read the feedback from the community. What's wrong with it?

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