How do you try to find a balance of the two?
One thing I've done in the past is begin reading fiction when I find I've stopped reading nonfiction. It tends to reenergize me to read more nonfiction.
Most people enforce balance with inelastic rules. When Bezos would say "work-life harmony" I think that's what he was getting at. Harmony is balance but a dynamic kind of balance.
What are you not wasting your time with anymore?
Trying to change other people's minds.
Earnest arguing is an exhausting expression of compassion. When I find myself arguing these days, it's when:
  1. I think the person's point of view/behavior is hurting them
  2. The person is worthy of compassion
I like what you say about dynamic balance. It reminds me somehow of what I learnt in high school chemistry classes: static equilibrium. Except that static equilibrium is the opposite of dynamic balance ofc
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Very good insight about arguing. If you can recognize this in the moment it's much easier to catch yourself and reorient to a much healthier discussion
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