Thank you for your suggestion! I shamefully confess that I sometimes let my boy use my phone because omg I just wanna do my own thing. But your point about pushing reading to reap future dividends gave me the strength to focus on reading. I’m literally carrying a book with me while on my way to pick him up from the childcare centre 

cryotosensei

Confessions of a burnt-out father

Also, push learning to read. If they love books, one day they will want to read non stop. Then u get time, it's cheaper than devices, and way less chance of them being unnoticeably influenced by internet creeps or normies. 

If u go for a counselor, find one that will hold u accountable and not just blame everyone/thing else. Also stear clear of any that might just try to convince u to become a tranny. 