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546 sats \ 7 replies \ @oliverweiss 2 Jan \ on: On starting a family Ask_SN

This is how gen Z overcomplicates things. My advice is to find a partner, the right one, and walk through life together. No house, no buffers needed in advance. If your partner requires all those points from you (except for the point 2), he or she is likely not the right one. My five cents on this.

121 sats \ 1 reply \ @rax0m 3 Jan

I'm a rather young father of 3 and I agree with this.

We started a family in a 31 sq m apartment, later moved into a house.

Another point is that I would not focus on finding the right one, but rather someone you think you will be compatible with long term. I've had crushes, and bad ones, and I've been in relationships where I was in love to the death. But that does not necessarily mean it works out long term. Looking at facts is better. I believe a lot of humans are compatible, and able to live together forever.

A side note is that Trace Mayer is the one who inspired me to become a dad at a young age. I hope he's doing well

20 sats \ 0 replies \ @Fabs OP 3 Jan

Good comment, thanks!

I also hold the believe that most people can work and grow together, and what's "perfect" anyways.

10 sats \ 2 replies \ @zuspotirko 2 Jan

This is how gen Z overcomplicates things.

I have noticed that several times now.

What is different about genZ in this regard? I know Zoomers are the first generation that grew up with the internet, while early generations didn't have the internet growing up or grew up while the internet was becoming a thing. But how does that tie to the meaning of life question?

10 sats \ 0 replies \ @oliverweiss 2 Jan

I can only give my personal opinion, don’t have data at hand, but I don’t remember anyone from my generation saying I need this, this and that to start a family. In addition, the fertility rate goes down, the average age of a woman having her first child goes up, number of young people living alone is ATH, other stats could be found - of course, these are long term trends, not genZ specifics.

111 sats \ 0 replies \ @Nuttall 3 Jan

Generation X was over-complicated too, but we had 'zines and punk rock, not social media to advertise our mental illnesses.

10 sats \ 1 reply \ @Fabs OP 2 Jan

Those are partially points i'd require from myself as not to be a burden to my family, as well as having less headaches about it.

How'd the "easy" route of yours go?

10 sats \ 0 replies \ @oliverweiss 2 Jan

I met a girl and married her. Easy as that. We were both at a university, poor, without house, jobs, buffers. Now we are five, still poor, do not own a house, but the life has been a funny ride…