If it's not part of your culture then it's an idea.

My experience has been two marriages.

My second one is almost 16 years and we still are affectionate with each other.

My first marriage I was young but also I was a very broken person.

I recommend working on yourself and doing exactly what you have done as in putting your goals out there.

Writing by hand is even more powerful as it takes many parts of your mind and brain to do this. This aligns with reality quite nicely. When you talk to women if they don't get your goals then let them go. If they have similar goals then it means you are going to the same place.

As far as the house goes, it's her cave, not yours so don't give it to just any woman. She must be worthy. Once it's given then it's hers. So if she is not frugal then you will be broke. If you are not frugal she may help but you better get frugal quick.

I'd also recommend developing a personal spiritual (breath rite) that is yours. This will help when you get lost.

Praying is good, too. Your own prayer, not some nonsense someone else uses, unless you need to borrow some nonsense, then it's coaching.

I wish you success!