You're a human being. That means that you, like all other human beings, will experience painful and difficult emotions.

Instead of pushing these emotions away, viewing them as an indication that you're flawed or broken, I want you to try something new. I want you to try to accept them, knowing that all they indicate is that you are a human being who is going through a particularly challenging moment.

Here's my favorite sentence to help you to do this:

Say these words to yourself.

This pain is how it is... right now. This sadness is how it is... right now. This grief is how it is... right now.

In one sentence, we can accept whatever is happening in the moment. The magic of this sentence, though, is that it also reminds us that this moment will not last forever. Because that's another part of the human experience: that no matter how painful these moments are, they eventually do pass.