agreed, each fee spike weaknesses in implementations is made bare
eg: none of them really do fee bumping
linked this in another thread, but looks like the lnd devs have some stuff they're working on in this area: https://groups.google.com/u/1/a/lightning.engineering/g/lnd/c/gz25tikv_3g
IMO we don't need any of this super fancy protocol stuff added to LN until the experience of operating a node is made much smoother, and handling fees better is a big part of that