625 sats \ 3 replies \ @kepford 5 Feb \ on: Dual Income vs Home Production Personal_Finance
Its a very personal value judgement to me. I think few people every do the math on dual incomes with the costs to relationships with children as well as the costs of day care. Not to mention that your kids are only kids for a short time. I reject the idea that you can't survive in the US on a single income. You can, but it isn't easy and you have to make choices that make it possible.
More and more, I feel like many families are not reaching their full potential because of this unquestioned assumption that both parents need to work.
I get that there are many families for whom dual earners is the best course of action. I just wish people would actually consider their options and (more importantly) respect their partners desires to do that kind of work and not look down on it as less important than drawing a salary.
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I have always expressed to my wife and others that I could not be where I am nor our family what it is without her. She has always worked. Some was in the home some outside the home. I have no time for men that do not respect the work of their wife. Its a sign of weakness to me.
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Yes, the men I know with this attitude either want their wife to work for social status reasons or because they think it's the only way for her to pull her weight. I don't respect either position.
We also have a friend whose husband is a great stay at home dad, but is not out of work entirely by choice. I think she pities him slightly, which I sort of get, but I wish she could more easily focus on the value of what he's doing.
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