There was a great anecdote about this kind of thing in some Robert Greene book. I believe it contrasted a successful senator with an unsuccessful one. The successful one made the right kind of compromises and unsuccessful one refused to make any - not because they were stubborn but because they thought they were right.
I think Jermey operated in good faith and AFAICT he made a lot of compromises, so I'm curious what he missed. Did he not grease the right wheels?
He may not have missed anything. It could be that those he was trying to work with were unwilling to accept compromise on their side. I'm speculating. But the point I'm making is that it can't be one sided. Just hearing about this individual's efforts make me wonder how long people like this can maintain the energy to see things through. My hope is that people will begin to see that no one wins when we approach collaboration with an adversarial mindset. We don't have to all agree but we can find common ground. But it can't be one sided. That's not common ground. That's submitting.
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If you have good faith people that are trying to solve problems but are stopped by others that are not behaving in good faith eventually those acting in bad faith will lose. As long as those acting in good faith do not fall for the trap of lowering themselves to bad actors. This is a low time preference behavior though and its hard for humans to do but is is very powerful. The high time preference thing is to lash out and stoop to becoming like your opposition.
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