1291 sats \ 2 replies \ @cryotosensei 21 Feb \ on: Crowdsourcing ideas - what are good ways to spend more time with people meta
As a parent who goes home every day to take care of my two kids, I can attest to the fact that lunch dates work. I can no longer meet friends in the evenings, so when I have a day off, I travel to a friend’s workplace to meet him or her for lunch 🥗 . Not quite the same thing as drinking myself silly at pubs but there’s a solid 1.5 hours of connection
Love it. If I may presumptuously assume here - I think the broad principle you're using is, ask and listen to what time/place works for the other person. If you try to force the time/place/event on someone who isn't interested it won't work. But if you meet someone for lunch when/where they want to meet up its awesome. Ask people what they're interested in doing and works for them. Within reason of course, don't be an absolute doormat - just congenial.
I so often find people trying to force me into shit I hate and it sucks. I'm your coffee/gun/bitcoin friend, and please don't make me go to an EDM concert at midnight when I have kids.
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Splitting attention between catching up with a friend and tending to the kids is a conversational juggling act. It's great when friends families can get together, but connection and presence in the conversation is delicate thing.
Long lunches are an elegant solution.
Annual trips with the boys sounds tempting. A Saturday of golf or a vacation day to go fishing feels pretty liberating.
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