What I mean is real in the deep philosophical sense. Even in person most are not real. I really try to be authentic to myself and others but I know that I fail much of the time. The reasons are many and complex. I'm not just talking about people being a-holes. We are incentivized to present certain things and hide others. That's not real.

That's what I mean. I don't believe it is healthy to take what people post online as real. Not in the same way we trust people we know. I have my reasons for seeing things this way. It is mostly from experience.