266 sats \ 3 replies \ @ek OP 18 Apr \ on: The Case for Hanging Out (2023) culture
I could probably write something longer about this but I'm currently not in the mood. I rather finish reading the article and stare out the window.
But what I can say is: I used to "not get" hanging out and dreaded it. It was the most socially awkward thing I could imagine. But now, looking back, I miss the occasions.
Serendipity. This has been on my mind, too, in a different way. More soon about that. However:
I used to "not get" hanging out and dreaded it. It was the most socially awkward thing I could imagine. But now, looking back, I miss the occasions.
One aspect that seems to matter, crucially, is that it's informal. Scheduling a hang-out (like she describes in the paper) might be nice, and tie into some of the same vibes, but it's different. There's something vitally important, and alive, when your default respiration includes a bunch of other people around. Your people.
That's what I miss most: default sociality.
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Definitely. I “wasted” much of my time doing this. Those years of first learning to drive, having the ultimate freedom, and yet usually choosing the same meeting spot every week was quite ironic but perfect just the same. So much stupidity and so many laughs just hanging out with friends until the early hours. What do you miss most about it?