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This is my favourite parenting book, but not for the reasons you may think. It divides the chapters according to various developmental stages, so each time my daughter crosses a milestone, I tear off the pertinent pages and send them to the recycling machine, heaving a sigh of relief that the toughest days of child-rearing will soon be distant memories of the past.
Not to mention that her school fees will undergo quite a significant dip now that she is more than 1.5 years old. My wallet proposes a toast to the Universe!
Anyway, reading such books is often a drag-back-to-earth that your child is not all that special, that she is going through a rite of passage like every infant out there. Still, based on my data point of two, I feel certain to conclude that this warrior princess is unique in certain ways:
  1. She charges up the playground slide, fully expecting to scale it. She fails many times, but she charges up again, with her enthusiasm undiminished.
  2. Similarly, she hurtles towards birds, probably wanting to catch them. Her elder brother exhibited more restraint, probably because he was more of a scaredy-cat.
  3. She feeds herself independently. In fact, she will push my hand away impatiently when I want to feed her (because she makes such a mess of her food) but noooooo, hell hath no fury like a woman denied autonomy. Meanwhile, her brother is conditioned to being fed because his toys are going through various adventures.
  4. She gives me a look, as if to notify me, before she dashes away towards the nearest stairs or capsule machine or playground. I am not her boss.
  5. She definitely cannot say 20 words as yet. But her “num num” means many things - that she wants to eat, that she is referring to a cat or a hippo. Very strategic linguist.
42 sats \ 1 reply \ @flat24 5 Jun
"She feeds herself. In fact, she will push my hand away impatiently when I want to feed her (because she makes a mess of her food) but nooooo, hell hath no fury like a woman who is denied autonomy. " I keep this part to express that there are times when I think that the universe simply makes it possible for us to share the same experiences in different realities at the same time. And only sometimes on some occasions do you tend to come together with others who experience or have experienced exactly the same thing as you. Now she explained to me, wow, something similar happened to me today with my little daughter, that aspect of autonomy takes her to incredible levels and it started more or less like this, as you say, wanting to eat alone and making her mini disasters to achieve the goal. objective, while he transformed into a beast if he tried to prevent it. Today I am serving you breakfast, on some days we include chicken eggs cooked in water. To then remove their shell and eat them, he has only recently begun to do the work of removing the shell when it is a little hot which is somewhat complicated, but in the end he achieves the task, but it usually takes several minutes so he is on pace to leave tomorrow quickly to go to school, I try to help him to speed up the process and it was something dramatic, we ended up arguing and I had to speak firmly so that the situation did not get out of control, because when you fall it is an argument between opposing fronts that never stops pushing towards your criteria. Which I admit is my fault, since she does not have the same perception of time as I do, with respect to keeping schedules. So she breathed, I relaxed and calmed down and I let her finish and I remembered the Australian series "Bluey" where the parents handle everything with such great patience that it makes you want to be the fabulous puppy's apprentice. (It's an animated puppy series). She finished her breakfast and then we finished using the peels to feed a little plant we have before leaving for school with her mother. And in the end I think that it is very good that they have these skills since it is the first step to being ungovernable future bitcoiners. 💪⚡ Greetings and blessings for your little one. Thanks for sharing
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lol at mini disasters.
It’s good that the two of you reconciled before she left the school. Kudos to you for putting your ego aside. From personal experience, I know it isn’t easy.
I must go n watch Bluey! It sounds like a show that I would appreciate
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I think our daughters are very similar.
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Let me know when your daughter teaches herself to read so that I can have similar expectations for mine
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I'm not sure if I'll know when she teaches herself to read. She's not always very forthcoming with information like that.
When we had our parent-teacher meeting at her preschool, a lot of the feedback about her progress involved "This is as much as she would do for me when I asked, but I'm pretty sure she knows a lot more."
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21 sats \ 2 replies \ @Lumor 5 Jun
Would you mind sharing at which age she started school, and why the fee dropped at 1.5 years? Interested to hear other cultural perspectives.
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Sure!
She attended school when she was 7 months old. In Singapore, the fees for infants are more expensive than those for preschoolers because there are less childcare centers which open up such opportunities. Also presumably infants are more difficult to take care of than their older counterparts.
That’s why the fees drop when they turn 1.5 years - because more childcare centers will have vacancies for toddlers.
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21 sats \ 0 replies \ @Lumor 5 Jun
Thanks! Wife's eager to start stacking sats again? 🙂
At our preschool in our corner of Scandinavia kids usually start after one year too. So maybe not so different. 7 months feels too early for me but it would be nice to have a babysitter sometimes for sure.
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Noting down all your experiences and recommendations for future!! A bucketful of thanks!!! As always my PPP friend!
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