Some people know how to provoke love in the other person, serial lovers as it were, men and women alike. They know what buttons to push to get loved. But they don’t necessarily love, rather they play cat and mouse with their prey.
To love, you have to admit your lack, and recognise that you need the other, that you miss him or her.
Those that think they’re complete on their own, or want to be, don’t know how to love. And sometimes they ascertain this painfully.
They manipulate, pull strings, but of love they know neither the risk nor the delights.”
Jacques-Alain Miller, On Love