73 sats \ 3 replies \ @cryotosensei 19 Jul \ on: Getting Feedback at Work - How to Handle? alter_native
Feedback is never an easy thing to take in, even when it is well intentioned. Seems that there are a couple of things going on here. I would lay low for a few days and wait for all my emotions to settle down before I strategise about the one thing i can undertake and improve that will yield me the greatest utility. I think it can be quite mentally exhausting trying to effect change in 2-4 areas, so i will focus on just one thing so as not to spread my energy thin. Hopefully, when i make a concerted effort to improve that one thing, i will create a virtuous cycle and see an improvement in other areas as well.
It seems to me that poor communication skills may give him the most bang for his buck. Specifically, what are the weaknesses in his communication style? And how can he communicate more effectively with his colleagues?
And take it easy. I was told during my work review last year that i work in silos and need to work more collaboratively and think of win-win solutions. Feedback happens to the best of us!
So modest, Sensei.
I agree, though, that improved communication is the place to start. There's a good chance it will help with the other two areas.
Without knowing the particular shortcomings of this person, it's hard to advise. One thing I'll note, though, is that you don't always have to come at things directly. Healthy, handsome, energetic people are perceived as more charismatic, even if they're saying the same things. As a first step, make sure to get enough sleep, eat well, and exercise.
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I agree with how employing a diagonal approach can also help soothe things. Another way is to create a niche and be so knowledgeable that your name comes to mind whenever people discuss that topic. That way, you can be a communication idiot but people will still flock to you for advice haha
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Yes. Although, that's not the best approach for someone with supervisory responsibilities.
I'd also note that being in a management position is not for everyone. I felt like I did ok at it, but sometimes it was quite trying and I'm not interested in doing it again.
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