It’s no secret that the average guy’s dating experience differs world’s with those of the average female, and I’m growing quite jealous of them.
Why? Well, my brother – who is average in terms of looks – gets to pursue men actively like he’s some kind of superhero. He has every woman in the world around him, and he can choose to ask any of them out, if he can pick her up and drop her (and occasionally even her friend) off. And if she says no, yeah, it sucks, but he can ask another one. And another. Whereas as a woman, if I’m constantly asking men out… the results are not good. So what, I’m supposed to just sit here passively? God, it’s annoying.
Going for a brunch? A coffee? An ice? It’s usually his choice where, and because it’s on his dime I’m supposed to be gracious even if I don’t like it. Here’s the real kicker though; a LOT of guys, if you offer to pay for them, they dump you. Like, that’s a test for them, and they’re done at that point. Then you get the ones who resent you if you let them pay. Lose-lose situation, kind of a crap shoot.
Whenever he goes out without members of said stud farm, he can practically party anywhere without worrying about what gets slipped into his drink, and doesn’t need a harem to stay some semblance of safe. When walking around the city he can ask out woman any time (and if she declines it’s a big world although true, rejections sucks but you get a tougher skin as you keep trying and respecting the no answers; ask any salesperson. It’s a skill), and then there’s his socials: Heaps. Heaps of wildly beautiful gals all trying to find a good man, and guess what? He’s single. With all those options, he’s single.
Well, good for him, right? Well… Here comes the sick part: he keeps (practically most of) those ladies around and “on the hook” simply to juice them for sex and blow jobs, then ghosts them or tells them that there’s no “click”, only to have her replaced the same day with the next candidate- It’s wild, and not in a good sense.
And then there’s little NinjaGrandma: an average gal who – on a good day – gets leering, men who get off on making her nervous, and on most days not even a serious respect for her intelligence.
Of course, with the above example of my VERY PSYCHOPATHIC SIS---BROTHER, sorry, I meant brother, that’s no surprise: those guys literally have lists of women in their phones that they can’t let each other know about, why bother risking anything with these cheating guys who half the time just like the power they have over women?
Witnessing my brother’s experiences and behavior in dating and women has also put me off letting strange men pursue me, not because I think that it’s the baseline, but because I’ve heard similar- or worse from other dudes his age on bitcoin twitter, in telegram groups, at work, in the gym, random groups of guys passing by, news reports of women murdered, it simply puts me off of taking any chances.
Hm, although it wasn’t planned, it turned into a little rant, but arrgh: I had to type it out and get it of my chest real quick…
It simply sucks, you know? Seeing him get everything and anything safely without bending a finger, able to actively pursue what he wants, while I’m left for dead.